Being an Impaired Empath© who is unaware of their empath triggers can have a disastrous impact on our social life: some Impaired Empaths never want to go out, while those who do can attract endless gut wrenching confidences from strangers.
What was supposed to be a fun evening can take a huge toll on us while we listen, feel every bit of their emotional turmoil and try to “help”. I know exactly how this feels: I have been there myself.
That’s why understanding our empath triggers is so important. Once we can spot them, we can start responding to them more appropriately.
In a previous post, we discussed how the Empath Experience© comes in a 3 step process:
1) The Empath Trigger
2) The Empath Wave
3) The Empath Release
Becoming a Balanced Empath involves learning how to control you wild empath skills. This is the most powerful change your can make in your life to regain your emotional sanity.
Let’s see how we can do this in the first phase of the Empath Experience: The Empath Trigger.
Managing your Empath Triggers
As we discussed here, Impaired Empaths© usually have very powerful triggers: eye contact, shaking someone’s hand, thinking about someone they love or a phone ring can throw us over the edge, into a sea of emotional turmoil.
Sensitive empaths are plagued with a very challenging trigger: proximity. Just being physically close to someone can cause us to tune into them emotionally. This is particularly tricky in crowded venues such as shopping malls or at work.
To make things worse, many Impaired Empaths© experience unconscious triggers: we can be triggered without realizing it. All of a sudden, we feel crappy and we don’t know why. So the very first step towards becoming a Balanced Empath is to notice when we start to feel emotionally activated.
Most empaths think the emotional noise they pick up from others is “normal,” and they just need to toughen up.
NOOOOooooo! We can learn to control our response to empath triggers.
What are your Empath Triggers?
So let’s take a moment to identify your empath triggers. Do you feel emotional churn during these situations?
- Proximity: Standing close to someone.
- Eye Contact: Looking up when someone talks to you.
- Physical Touch: A hand shake, a hug, being bumped in a crowd.
- Specific People: Your spouse, your child, you co-worker.
- Specific Situations: When someone is angry or feeling upset.
- Thinking about someone: Even if they’re miles away
Paying attention to any kind of unusual emotional activation allows you to discover your own empath triggers.
How to Respond to your Empath Trigger?
It can be shocking to realize how often we are being triggered without realizing it. It’s like being constantly poked by an invisible stick!
However, knowing when we are getting triggered allows us to do something about it. Instead of a helpless victim to a process we can’t control, we can finally take charge.
Once you realize you’ve been activated, immediately use Technique 1 in my free Empath Survival Program©. By using this simple technique, we can tell our mind to filter out the emotional information we are currently picking up from other people. And since it’s often an unconscious reflex for us, we have to practice, practice, practice!
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