Are you an Empath?  How can you tell?  Although every empath is different, there are some experiences that are fairly common amongst Empaths.

I’ve worked with thousands of Empaths over the years and this is usually what keeps coming up…

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What is an Empath?  Is that for real?  I asked myself that very question 11 years ago and this is what helped me the most!  More tips and resources on my web site: http://www.EliseLebeau.com/empaths

impaired empath empath bluesDo you suffer from the Empath blues?

Impaired Empaths © have a high risk of experiencing “unexplainable sadness”. Constantly feeling the negative emotions of others can trigger a form of emotional exhaustion where nothing feels good anymore. Here’s how to spot and alleviate “emotional fatigue”.
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empath feng shuiEmpaths and Intuitives tend to be extremely sensitive to everything around them.  Which is why it is SO important for us to surround ourselves with positive energy, especially when it comes to our home.

“Home” is the place where we rest from the hustle and bustle of the outside world.  For Empaths, having a calm, soothing and supportive home environment allows us to ground, recharge and rejuvenate on a daily basis.

I recently felt like my newly purchased house needed some “energy upgrades”.  I had already made some changes based on my intuitive sense of what was needed but I wanted someone’s expert perspective.  By a weird series of events, I fortunately connected with Cheryl Janis, a very gifted Feng Shui consultant and, incidentally, an Empath.

What I like most about Feng Shui is that it can make a world of difference for spiritually sensitive people.  It tends to be annoying how to we pick up every negative energy around us.  BUT we can also pick up every positive energy as well…if we’re paying to attention to it.  Adjusting the energy in our home can bring about a huge transformation and a major sigh of relief in our daily life.

No matter what kind of energy quirks we have going on, Feng Shui can offer solutions.  Most of the time, they are VERY simple ones too!  Changing the paint color to a more soothing palette, adding a mirror to deflect negative energy, hanging a Crystal to expand positive energy that might have been going down the drain…There’s always a remedy for whatever you have going on.

Feng Shui is also about intention.  If you want to increase the harmony without your relationships, you can add more lighting in that corner of the house or hang a chi boosting crystal.  In turn, every time you look at that new light, you are reminded of your intention to have loving friends and family surrounding you.  It’s a process that affects not only your energy but your consciousness as well.

In the end, I feel that the benefits of Feng Shui are especially powerful for sensitive people like us.  And here’s one instance where being sensitive is a VERY GOOD thing!

PS: the funniest thing is that Cheryl is a long time member of the Empath Community, a web site I created to support Empaths!  I had never met a member of my web site in person and this was a very exciting “first” for me!!!!  Some things are just meant to be…

 

in love,

Elise Lebeau, Ph.D., Professional Intuitive

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Each crystal has a unique vibration that is both extremely pure and very powerful for sensitive people like Empaths.  Just by holding crystals  or wearing gemstones as jewelry, we can positively affect our own energy.

So what is the best crystal for  Empaths?

Although everyone will react differently to a particular crystal, Rose Quartz is by far the most common “power stone” for Empaths.

 

1)  Its soothing vibration calms emotions, which is a life saver for Empaths who are constantly being triggered by other people’s negative emotions.

2) Its nurturing properties gently heals the Heart Chakra where most Empaths have been deeply wounded, usually from unshielded exposure to external, toxic negative emotions.

3) Its strong and steady energy provide much needed grounding so that Empaths can feel protected and safe even in chaotic environments.

in love,

Elise Lebeau, Ph.D., Professional Intuitive

PS:  That picture above  shows you a few of my own rose quartz crystals.  I have a LOT more than this though!

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Are you a confused Empath?

Do you know what your heart truly wants?

This can be an extremely difficult question to answer for an Empath.  Empaths are constantly flooded by what other people feel, making it hard to “hear” their own heart.  It’s like trying to listen to the wind during a rock concert.

And yet, inner peace and happiness require a constant conversation with the heart to guide us towards what we truly want!

This kind of conversation can only take place in a very quiet place, filled only with our own spirit.  Empaths tend to struggle with this as they are pulled away from who they are because they are constantly exposed to how other people feel about everything else.

So how do you get yourself in that quiet place?  Meditations comes to mind… but  I personally used to be unable to meditate because I was so distracted by other people’s stuff!  And my mind can’t focus on “nothing”.

What helped me the most were the guided meditations by Orin. I have a large stack of them on my iPhone and I listen to them while I play solitaire (also on my iPhone).  I have to keep my mind busy in order to get it quiet, ironically.  But this works wonders for me!

I also used all kinds of Meditation Techniques You’ve Never Heard Of to help me through this rambunctious journey towards the quiet within.

If you’re an Empath, finding a way to quiet your mind and emotions so that you can hear your own heart is a critical skill.

What can you do today to get started?

 

in love,

Elise Lebeau, Ph.D., Professional Intuitive

www.EliseLebeau.com

We are all born with the ability to sense emotions in others. It’s is a basic survival skill for humans and animals. This ability usually subsides in childhood as we learn to focus more on verbal cues than emotional ones.

Empaths, on the other hand, have a heightened sensitivity to other people’s emotions that keeps developing over time. As other kids stop picking up emotional signals, Empath children become totally overwhelmed by the sheer quantity of emotional information that they receive in social settings.

Since most parents do not know if they are Empaths, they don’t recognize the signs in their kids. It also prevents them for effectively teaching their kids how to manage emotional overflow. For a more in depth discussion on resources for adult Empaths, you can read my articles on this topic here.

Emotional Intelligence is defined as “the ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one’s self, of others, and of groups” (Salovey and Mayer, 1990). When you teach your children how to manage their Empath skills, you are developing their Emotional Intelligence.

There are three fundamental concepts that need to be addressed in order to effectively manage emotional information.

1. Empowerment: Do you control your Empath skills or do they control you (curse or blessing?)

2. Centeredness: Can you always hear your own internal self above all (raise above the chaos)

3. Flow: Does emotional information come in AND out freely (do you have an outlet?)

Is your child an Empath?

Children have a different way of handling their Empath abilities. Their range of available response is smaller, so they typically pick very quiet (as a way to calm down the emotional chaos they feel) or acting out (as a way to be louder than the emotional noise).

Keep in mind that children learn how to manage their Empath abilities by watching you handle yours. If you’re an Empath but don’t know how to handle it, get help for yourself first!

These are behaviors I have observed in Empath children who don’t know how to handle their abilities:

  • Gets unusually quiet (often seen as shyness) around crowds but is fine with the immediate family or smaller groups. Your child is trying to feel empowered and centered by withdrawing from the world.

 

  • Gets physically or verbally out of control around people but is mellow at home. Your child is trying to find an outlet to the overwhelming flow of incoming emotions.

 

  • Resists going to bed or wakes up often. Your child is trying to stay centered while surrounded by the emotional activity of adults.

 

  • Catches every illness available (cold, flu, ear infections, etc.). Your child is trying to feel empowered in shutting down unwanted emotional activity. Being sick is often the only way a child can use to withdraw from social situations.

Of course, this describes about 85% of children. I believe that most children do suffer from a mismanagement of their Empath skills. I also believe that more and more Empath children are born every day. So 85% is not a shocking number to me.

The bottom line is: can you help your child have a happier life by using Empath tools? If it does help, then you’re on the right track!

Disclaimer: This checklist is not a diagnostic or treatment tool. I am not a doctor or a mental health professional. Some of the characteristics of Empaths can be diagnosed as ADD, agoraphobia or clinical depression. Contact your health care professional if you have any questions, need diagnostic or treatment for a mental health issue.

In order to help your child, you need tools that address each of the three concepts (empowerment, centeredness and flow). This is a technique I developed with my son.

Empath Anchoring Technique:

When your child gets overwhelmed, she often just needs a point of reference to stay grounded. You can be that anchor.

1. Calm your own emotions. You can’t be a positive anchor if you’re upset or angry.

2. Tell her quietly “Look me in the eyes” (point to your eyes) and put your hand on her chest. Make sure you have eye contact for the next step!

3. Tell her “We’re going to take 5 breaths together and count them”. Let your child breathe however she wants. You’re just accompanying her, counting out loud with each exhalation.

Breathing quiets down emotional noise, re-centers the mind and helps children feel empowered by having something they can do when they feel uncomfortable. Include Empath anchoring it in your night time routine!

 

in love

Elise Lebeau, Ph.D., Professional Intuitive

www.EliseLebeau.com