Technique 4

Empaths in Romantic Relationships

These are the most common problems that Empath report encountering in their close relationships.

Entanglement
Being an Empath can be a huge advantage in the beginning of a relationship because you can quickly connect emotionally with other people. But it can also become uncomfortable when you become so close that you are overwhelmed by their emotions…

One of the major challenges for Empaths is that we are constantly feel “their stuff”. This can lead to a tough situation where our own thoughts and emotions become entangled with someone else’s, where we can’t tell them apart.

For example, if they come home grumpy from having a bad day at work, you might also start to feel irritated without really knowing why.

Emotion Intensity

Even if it’s very positive, intense emotions can be overwhelming for Empaths. We’re so sensitive that feeling powerful emotions is overloading our senses and we need to pull back, oftentimes both emotionally and physically. Women Empath might even feel an aversion to being touched by a loving husband or feel totally exhausted after holding their baby.

Always make sure you have enough time daily where you are by yourself in a quiet environment. This is the best way to recharge your batteries and calm down your senses.

Emotion Interpretation

It’s very easy for impaired Empaths to misinterpret what they perceive from their partner. People often experience complex emotions that they can’t fully explain or understand. One of the most common misinterpretation is that if you can feel it, they can feel it too. But when you read emotional information from others, you typically cannot tell whether these are conscious or unconscious feelings.

Never assume that other people can feel what you feel, even within themselves. It’s always best to ask how they feel instead of assuming that you know.


Technique 4: Holding your space

Empaths are very easily overrun by other people’s emotions from the entanglement problem we described earlier. We’ll give in, be swayed in our opinions or settle for a bad compromise just because it’s what the other person wants. So it’s critical that we learn to keep our emotional space free from external influences.

Here’s a technique to do this:

1) Before you start a conversation with your partner, take a moment to close your eyes and imagine a bubble around you about 2 or 3 feet from your body. This is your personal space. In this space, you only allow your own emotions to flow.

2) Now imagine the same kind of bubble around your partner. That’s their personal space.

3) During an argument or negotiation, make sure you don’t sit too close to your partner. Leave enough physical space between the two of you so you can both maintain your personal space.

4) If you start to feel confused or overwhelmed, pause for a moment and get your bubble back to its full size. Phew, that will probably feel better right away!

 

PRACTICE: At least 7 days during normal conversations.

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