Day 5: Managing Empath Children

As an Empath, you are more likely to recognize Empath children than Non Empaths. Keep in mind that many Empath children are born in Non Empath families, so the parent might not be interested or ready to hear about this topic. Of course, your own children might be Empaths as well.

It's not your job to tell anyone about their Empath skills!
If they're ready to deal with this, they'll find the resources they need (just like you did!).
You can be available to them but you are not responsible for them.

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How to spot an Empath Child?

There are three fundamental concepts that need to be addressed in order to effectively manage emotional information.

1. Empowerment: Do you control your Empath skills or do they control you (curse or blessing?)

2. Centeredness: Can you always hear your own internal self above all (raise above the chaos)

3. Flow: Does emotional information come in and out freely (do you have an outlet?)

Keep in mind that children learn how to manage their Empath abilities by watching you handle yours. If you're an Empath but don't know how to handle it, practice managing your skills first!

These are typical behaviors of Impaired Empaths (children who don't know how to handle their abilities):

• Gets unusually quiet (often seen as shyness) around crowds but is fine with the immediate family or smaller groups. Your child is trying to feel empowered and centered by withdrawing from the world.
  
  
• Catches every illness available (cold, flu, ear infections, etc.). Your child is trying to feel empowered by shutting down unwanted emotional activity. Being sick is often the only way a child can use to withdraw from social situations.
  
  
• Resists going to bed or wakes up often. Your child is trying to stay centered while surrounded by the emotional activity of adults.
  
  
• Gets physically or verbally out of control around people but is mellow at home. Your child is trying to find an outlet to the overwhelming flow of emotional information.
  
  

Disclaimer: This checklist is not a diagnostic or treatment tool. I am not a doctor or a mental health professional. Some of the characteristics of Empaths can be diagnosed as ADD, agoraphobia or clinical depression. Contact your health care professional if you have any questions, need diagnostic or treatment for a mental health issue.

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Exercise 5: Empath Child Grounding Technique

In order to help your child, you need tools that address each of the three concepts (empowerment, centeredness and flow).
This is a technique I developed for my Empath son, when he was 2 years old.

When your child gets overwhelmed, she often just needs a point of reference to stay grounded: You can be that anchor.

1. Calm your own emotions. You can't be a positive anchor if you're upset or angry.

2. Tell her quietly "Look into the eyes" (point to your eyes) and put your hand on her chest. Make sure you have eye contact for the next step!

3. Tell her "We're going to take 5 breaths together and count them". Let your child breathe however she wants. You're just accompanying her, counting out loud with each exhalation.

Breathing quiets down emotional noise, re-centers the mind and helps children feel empowered by having something they can do when they feel uncomfortable. Include Empath Grounding exercise in your night time routine!

We have a special group in our Empath Community just for parents of Empath Children. You can find it here.

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Checkpoint

In order to keep this program comfortable, I recommend that you wait 24 hours before moving on to the next topic.

It's easy to get overwhelmed without realizing it. We all need time to digest and integrate!
So take a moment right now to evaluate how you are feeling before moving on to another topic!

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