Day 3: Being an Empath with family and friends

For some Empaths, crowds are not uncomfortable because they generate a "white noise" that is easily filtered out by the subconcious mind. But attending parties and family reunions can be a totally different story...

We always pay more attention to information that we care about, whether we love or hate that specific topic. Likewise, we tend to inadvertedly be more receptive to the emotions of people that we are close to. Even from 3000 miles away, I can always sense the mood of my mother, if I choose to pay attention to it! The trick here is to choose when you do this, instead of doing it accidentally!

Many Empaths get in trouble because they want to help their family and friends or subconsciously feel that they should pay attention to the emotions of their loved ones...I can't tell you how many times it creeps up on me to inadvertedly tune into my son or my husband, even though I have excellent control over my Empath skills when it comes to everyone else.

These kinds of desires (which are usually not conscious) gives rise to a difficult inner conflict:
We want to read them (so we can help) but it's overwhelming to be always "feeling" someone else.

We absolutely need to resolve the underlying conflict before progress can be made. Simply choosing to ignore their emotional information would be the equivalent of trying to ignore a crying baby...it just gets to you no matter what!

Empaths who have this inner conflict often feel responsible for the well being of their family. And yet, just because you can feel their emotional distress DOES NOT mean that you can help them, or that you have to. On the contrary, we tend to be less objective when it comes to our loved ones...

In order to move forward, you have to bring up any kind of inner conflict about your loved ones so you can tune out their emotions, just like everyone else's...

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Exercise 3: Releasing Control

At the core of this inner conflict is a belief that we can control the well being of others. It's a very deep belief, often carried over from early childhood when you might have felt that it was your fault if people got angry or depressed. By letting go of that belief, we resolve the conflict.

Here's a great exercise to release control.

1. Make a tight first with your dominant hand.
   
   
2. In this fist, visualize that you are holding your family's well being: Your ability to control how they feel.
   
   
3. Take a deep breath and open up your fist very wide, releasing this control.
   
   
4. Now, to anchor this in your conscious mind, say out loud: "I release any control over my family's well being". Next time you start to feel overwhelmed around your family/friends, just form a fist and release it. It's easy to do discretely under the dinner table!
   
   

This is not something that works over night. You simply have to keep doing it over and over again until you have deeply released this conflict. But you'll know if this is helping you because you will feel a little better every time you use it!

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Checkpoint

In order to keep this program comfortable, I recommend that you wait 24 hours before moving on to the next topic.

It's easy to get overwhelmed without realizing it. We all need time to digest and integrate!
So take a moment right now to evaluate how you are feeling before moving on to another topic!

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