Law of Attraction: Are you a Fixer or an Avoider?
Does this sound familiar?
You have a little negative thought ("Why I am still struggling with money") …
which turns into a bucket full of negative thoughts ("I must be doing it wrong")…
which drives you right into the manifestational ditch: a big fight with the husband, one more unexpected bill in the mail and a long waiting line at Starbucks Coffee.
I know I have been there myself often enough. And, while I was there, I tried all kinds of ways to move on ASAP. In the end, it always boils down to 2 options:
1) You find a way to feel better about the problem at hand.
2) You find something else to feel good about.
This is similar to what you’d do if there was a fallen tree branch over the road you’re driving on. You can either get out of the car and take care of the branch or you can take the detour. Both options can be productive and you’ll end up using each of them in turn, depending on the specifics of the situation.
If the branch is huge and you don’t have a chainsaw in the trunk, then the detour is the best way to go. If it’s just a little branch that you can easily drag out of the way, it’s better to stop and clear the road.
The problems start when you systematically refuse to use one of these solutions!
As you resist the path that would be more productive, you remain stuck much longer than necessary. I have seen this so many times that I can usually tell if someone falls into one of these categories:
Avoiders: Will not get out of the car to look at the problem, even if the detour is lengthy and painful.
Fixers: Will not take the detour, even if nothing productive can be done to fix the problem.
Avoiders and Fixers create their own set of troubles.
Avoiders constantly have to keep busy, running a rat race to keep themselves from accidentally stumbling upon the underlying problem. They’ll gather up piles of resources but never use any one of them effectively.
Fixers will spend most of their time thinking about the problem, making it much harder to manifest good, positive things. They’ll get piles of resources and use them all at once, until they metaphorically vomit everything back up.
We all have a preference, of course. I spent most of my life being a fixer. And under stress, I tend to revert right back to it. But by now, I know to change course when I realize what I’m doing. Because there is a better option out there: The Opportunist.
The Opportunist always chooses the path of least resistance that feels better right away. Sometimes taking the detour (without feeling guilty about leaving the branch in the middle of the road), sometimes stopping to solve the problem (without worrying about getting a little dirty along the way). The greatest benefit of this strategy is that it leverages LOA instantly: as you choose the best option, you get thrown even better ones to choose from!
In my experience, this is not an overnight change. But it’s an overnight choice. For all the Avoiders and Fixers out there, the first step is to CHOOSE to be an Opportunist. As soon as you do that, LOA will start throwing great opportunities your way. And then you just practice, practice, practice…
Sometimes, a prospective client will ask me if, being an Intuitive, I’m happy all the time. The answer is no. But I am a seasoned Opportunist, which means that my bad days are short and always end up back into Well Being.
In love,
Elise Lebeau, M.Sc.
Intuitive Counselor
http://www.EliseLebeau.com
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